Settling in

For a successful Au Pair experience, we believe that a positive settling in is crucial. It is a big step for Au Pairs to leave their family and friends behind and move to another country for a couple of months or longer. A smooth settling in will help the new Au Pair to adjust to the new situation more quickly and reduce the chance of feeling homesick, or even worse, regretting this step.

What can I do from home to prepare a smooth settling in?

Your settling in can start long before you board the plane. You can already do a lot of research on the internet and try to find out as much as possible about what the region your Host Family lives has to offer for young people like you. You could for instance:

  • Look for language schools
  • Check what leisure time activities are offered
  • Search for locale Au Pair groups (Facebook is a good start for that)
  • Find out on Google Maps where the next stores or other places of interest are and so on.

Another thing to mention is that traditionally, the Au Pair will bring a present for the Host Family when she/he arrives. It can be something with a connection to your home country or your family. It doesn´t need to be anything expensive but it should be something special to show the family that you respect them. We have published a separate page about gifts that you could hand over to your Host Family.

What are the 10 best tips from other Au Pairs for the settling in?

We have asked Au Pairs to name their top tips of what to do to have a good start as an Au Pair. Here is a list of the top 10 settling in tips:

  1. Be patient and ready for everything
  2. Don´t be shy and try to find friends as soon as possible
  3. Join any possible Facebook Group and try to get into locale Au Pair WhatsApp groups
  4. Check the Wifi
  5. Try to open a bank account
  6. Talk to your Host Family when problems occur – never ignore problems
  7. Try to spend as much time as possible with the children to become their friend quickly
  8. Go to an English language school to improve your English and to make new friends
  9. Ask the Host Parents to actually walk or drive all daily routes at least once together
  10. Don’t hesitate to contact your agency (if you came through an agency) when you do not feel well with something

On the following pages you will find more detailed information and tips about the settling in of Au Pairs. You can also find first hand descriptions of some Au Pairs’ experience.